If you’re interested in improving yourself as an individual, you’ve probably tried to implement hundreds of positive changes in your life, only to realize that nothing ever seems to change. Sure, you saw some benefits from some of these habits, but not the profound transformation for which you were hoping. Sometimes, you have to shift your focus from what you’re not doing right to what you’re doing wrong. In other words, you could be constantly doing things that prevent you from improving, despite your best intentions and earnest attempts at changing. Here are some things to stop doing right now to improve your personal life.
Comparing Yourself to Others
Every time you refresh your Facebook feed or scroll through Instagram to see what other people are up to, you’re subconsciously comparing your life to that of others. Whether your friend from high school just got married or your cousin took a job abroad, there’s a little voice in your head asking if they’re happier than you. This comparison happens every time you wonder if other people are having a better life than you. This harmful thinking keeps you from being able to focus on and improve your own life.
Avoiding Uncomfortable Things
Although it’s a natural instinct, putting off uncomfortable things only creates more problems in the future. You can avoid a lot of pain by handling these issues immediately. For example, you should already be planning for your funeral. It sounds morbid, but you can save your family significant trouble and hardship by planning and paying for your funeral in advance. Knowing that you’ve helped to alleviate some of their future anxiety can make you feel great right now.
Hanging Out with Toxic People
There’s a popular saying, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” It’s remarkable how much your personal life can be influenced by your close group of friends. If you’re hanging out with people who are complacent, toxic, and stagnant, then there’s a good chance you’ll end up the same way. You need to stop spending time with people who will hold you back. Instead, invest in time with people who want what’s best for you.
Engaging in Self-Sabotage
Unfortunately, there are times when we are our own worst enemies. Instead of providing a voice of encouragement, we disparage ourselves for our failures and shortcomings. Life presents enough challenges without you having to compound the problem with self-criticism. You know when you do something wrong. That self-awareness, paired with the intent of doing better, is much healthier than torturing yourself. If you want to drastically improve your personal life, become your own cheerleader and not your own critic.
Wasting Your Time
It’s helpful to view each minute of your day as currency with which you can invest in different areas. An hour of studying will yield different results than investing that time watching TV. With this perspective, you can evaluate all the ways in which you’re wasting your most precious currency: time. Your current situation is a direct result of the ways you’ve chosen to spend your time. To improve your personal life, you have to stop wasting time on pointless things and invest it in becoming a better person.
Becoming a better person is all about what you do on a daily basis. When analyzing your habits, don’t forget to focus on what you’re already doing. There may be some hardwired routine standing in your way of having a happier personal life.
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